Kids these days...

I must admit, I'm the typical guy that had not been harnassed with fatherly instinct as yet...

So it is no surprise, I chose to hang out with single friends, whom spend most of their times in 'no worries' places like clubs, pubs, bars and such. Hence, the topic of marriage, family, kids, nvr seems to exist in my world.

These recent yrs, as I grew older, my friends got married, engaged, booked a flat, registering their ROM etc.. I am still stuck btw my old world and the new one tt inevitably will come straight in my face... slowly and gradually..

So it is one of these social gatherings, my colleagues brought their friends for dinner, and i happened to join in. So most of my colleagues is married, but around my age, and their kids is about.. perhaps 3 or 5 yrs old.

So one of my colleague S, brought another sec sch frend of hers along, her name is SY. and with her, a 12 yr old boy, whom took a liking to me immediately.

Pardon me for being observant, but SY seems too young to be a mum. she's like 26+ and her kid is 12? So i was told later from S, that SY gave birth to that little kid, BB when she was 15...

Well... I have no qualms or criticism about teens who gave birth during their sec sch days. I mean, we read abt it in newspaper or perhaps seen magazine column like auntie agony, so here standing right in front of me, is a living example.

Firstly i tot... "oh maybe the dad is some hormone charged up boys who just wanna jerk off and f**k off kind*

the typical scenario where the boy and the gal is too young to be responsible for each other.

then i realized SY have a sad story.
Her bf was a Msian tt time, and probbaly 17-18, had a huge quarrel during her pregnancy, came to S'pore on a motor to look for her , 6 mths into her pregnancy, meet into an accident @ the customs.. and never return.

*sighs*

this kinda life story nvr fails to makes me wet in the eyes..

So I took an immediate affirmity on the kid. Did some magic tricks, make him laugh. told him some jokes. He's so clingly to me at the end of the day.

Even though he call me 'uncle' *COUGH* most of the time. I guess I cant keep telling myself i am "KORKOR" rite. FINE.

so SY must have been thr hell, to lost the man she loves, and brings up the kid as a single mum... I totally respect her.

For the past 12 yrs, spend her attention on the kid, nvr on herself. So S cheekily brought the kid and her to the function, wanna introduce to the rest of the 'bachelor figures' there. lolx

I think the rest of the bachelors seems to backed off, seeing her carrying a bundle of 'burden' . but for me, I was trying to play with the kid and nvr take much notice of SY anyway.

So at the end of the day, we were having dinner, the kid wanted me to sit with him, and gave me a sulky face if i nvr sat with him. I grinned and obliged his request.

So SY was sitting opp me, and the kid was sitting with me. then suddenly, in front of S, and some of my colleagues, he shouted; " Mummy mummy! I liked Uncle very much! Can you marry him please so I can take him home with me!"

-The entire table laughed, including myself-

SY was red-faced and told BB to shut up and eat his dinner.

seeing that the his request doesnt work, he says ' can you be my godpa!?"

I was shaking my head.. "No No.... Uncle is bz with work, no time to see you in the future how? "

and he bit my arm, so I have to say " OK OK!!! "

then he hugged me the whole dinner time, and kept asking me for my msn, facebook, email address... -_- which i gave of course.

I told him to write me an email, as I am invisble most of the times, friends knew i am the invisible man anyway.

If he faced any trouble in sch, can write to me. I will reply him.
that nite, i was in FB, i added him, and he immediately chat up with me ' Godpapa!'

I was so amused.

He even asked me to visit me at his house someday. but I told him I will consider. I heard its quite a cramp in SY house. the grandparents the aunites all squeezing in a tiny 3 room flat.

Why am I tell you guys all these anyway?

The morale of this blog, is not about courtship, or love btw an impossible relationship.

Its about a man , who spend most of his life, running away from commitments and responsibiility, to find a kid, who barely knows him for 24 hrs, and calls him 'god dad'.

It kinda lights up the gloomy part of my heart. Amuses me with a silly grin every time i tink of BB.

So before I end my entry, I would like to wish
BB: Be good to your mum, study hard, make her proud and be a better person.

SY: you have a good kid, you brought him up well, its not an easy route for someone so young, gambatte!

Goodnite folks.